- First, they really don’t want to see these pics.
- Secondly, guys send the pics without asking, often without any explanation or context. Typically, sending such a picture is one of the first communications women receive from these men.
“Men are GROSS” is the most common explanation that women have for this. Others might add “They’re GROSS and STUPID. Do they really think I’m going to magically want to have sex with them now, after seeing their penis?”
As silly as this issue might seem to be, it offers some genuine opportunity for insight into the ways that modern technology reveals interesting aspects of sexuality and gender.
This definitely appears to be more of a male thing. At least, in terms of sending the pictures unrequested. Both males and females are commonly sending nudes of themselves to people they meet online, but women tend to wait until asked. That distinction may simply be an expression of gender differences in mating and dating strategies. The fact is, women are told that being sexually bold in such a manner is shameful and makes them a slut.
There really aren’t any research studies looking at this question, and so all we can do right now is speculate, though with some informed psychological wisdom:
- It’s most likely that this behavior represents an aspect of men’s misperception of female sexual interest. Men love the idea of receiving such pictures from strangers, and they assume women do too. Men notoriously misperceive women’s sexual interest in them and project their own sexual interests and desires onto women. In this situation, men really are hoping and thinking that you’ll be turned on and send them a pic in response.
- It’s probable that some of this connects to the fact that in an anonymous environment, people, and especially men, are likely to engage in more sexualized behaviors. Psychological research has demonstrated that in anonymous environments, people, both men and women, engage in fairly casual sexual behaviors, including exhibitionism.
- Male mating strategies have always included an element of “boldness,” where men who are bold and brash sometimes garner female attention they wouldn’t otherwise receive if they were nice and polite. This is a key tenet behind the Pick-Up Artist strategies, where men are encouraged to be bold and impulsive. So, the “shock value” is a way for men to get attention. And negative attention is better than no attention at all.
- It’s probable that at least some of these men receive a sexual thrill at the idea of an unknown woman seeing their genitalia. It may be an aspect of exhibitionism, and some of these men probably masturbate as a part of the act, imagining that woman seeing the picture they sent. The fact that a woman rejects them for it is not salient, because for many such men, it is the woman’s disgust and rejection which is actually part of the turn-on. These are likely the same men that used to be in trenchcoats on street corners. In Ohio, one man was dubbed “The Naked Photographer (link is external)” because he would jump out and expose his penis to women, and take a photo of their reaction. When he was caught, he later admitted that he would masturbate to the pictures of the women’s reactions. Famous French philosopher Jean Jacques Rousseau (link is external)used to hang his naked buttocks out of alleyways, hoping that some women passersby would spank him for being such a naughty boy.
- Men fear sexual rejection, and by sending pics of their genitalia, they are almost getting “pre-approval.” This way, they get the chance of rejection out of the way early, so they don’t have to worry about being rejected or shamed once they drop their pants on a real date.
Origin : https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/women-who-stray/201602/why-men-send-pics-their-junk
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